aita for uninviting my stepdad

I would have dumped OP and never gotten involved with this family if she didn't stick up for me. They took his medication so he couldnt breathe well. Standing up for your fiance is the best thing you could have done, and honestly if they don't change their attitude real quick, uninviting them is definitely the best answer. I will say though - you NEED to go to bat for him more. They are absolutely brilliant in other ways and some of the kindest people I know. Your family already drove that wedge, not Timmy. It's no joke and can be severely deadly. Woman slammed for uninviting step-dad from wedding so brothers would attend A bride-to-be is being shamed online after confessing she'd uninvited her step-dad from her wedding - which he paid. Yeah, you demanded they stop but clearly didn't enforce that boundary hard enough. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. The doctor in the hospital decided I was just a drug seeker. just an umbrella term or have multiple meanings. Ngl he did what he could to help me out with school and everything, he even offered to fund my wedding which is going to be in 5 weeks time and I'm very grateful for that though this was his decision. Being in a good mood I went on a websearch to add some examples of that having happened. The soft college boy clearly they feel insecure around him or they wouldnt treat him like that! They are bullying. And to add, men who are testing his manliness are the exact kind of men that dont have a clue what it means to be a real man. You have my sword!! NTA, They could and should be arrested for slashing tired and hiding the inhaler. Everyone here takes the right choice as a foregone conclusion, but Id spend days having a panic attack if that was thrust on me. This post made me so mad. Your family is toxic, rude and dangerous! You know what OP's group of male family members are doing? It isn't easy to do; it isn't easy to learn when to do it. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. Theyve done damage to private property and have threatened the life of your fianc. And they could have hurt him. Your whole family including your mom sound like awful human beings. Cousin asked if "little timmy ran to me to tattle". Nope, not at all. NTA but you would be if you put your SO in danger again just to play happy families. I know you were brought up to believe this is normal, but it's not. OP, they should be damn lucky your fiance hasn't just walked away from you and the marriage. OP, you need to absolutely stamp out your family's behaviour or risk losing a great guy who sounds as if he would go to hell and back for you. Please keep discussions within the posts of this sub. Your family went in the bullying / torture zone with their pranks. These are not pranks. I doubt anyone here would find the choice so easy if they got stuck with it either. Does he have to die before you're willing to go no contact? Um you both didnt cut off contact after his tires were slashed? i might be the asshole here for overreacting. Timmy didn't drive the wedge between you and your family. Let them sulk. Like Im sorry, who are you? My life (in my childish head) was crushed. My cousin is begging that we talk, my uncle has been quiet, but dad is so mad and now he's getting mom involved to get me to reconsider this decision. Exactly. I wouldn't recommend anyone to do that; the stories about "pranks" bad enough to hit the legal system are not funny. "What type of relationship does your dad have with your siblings? I sent Dean and Kevin invitations but once they found out that our stepdad was going to be there, they said they might not come. I apologize for the slur against Neanderthals. Fixing cars or whatever is a "manly" thing to do, but even if they can fix cars, there is nothing manly about these guys. You don't need your family to think your fiance is "man enough", and their definition itself is horrendous. These arent pranks, theyre straight up dangerous. Organized bullying isn't funny or a prank. NTA - Your family sound like psychopaths. Mom needs to be told to butt out or shes next to be banned. It was really sad she was in her mid 20's like this shit can be life threatening if an attack isn't treated correctly. NTA, this is horrible. . NTA. They can be the sweetest people, but they are also the most judgemental and mean to the point I have a screwed up perspective of "teasing" due to them. Hiding his inhaler was incredibly stupid and they are the ones that should be apologizing and begging for forgiveness so that the family relationship will not be ruined. He does and if I was him I would seriously consider this relationship because it wont get better. OP, if you don't protect your future husband from that disgusting behaviour, you don't deserve him. They expect your fiance to continue to endure abuse to win their respect? We have been together for 10.5 years and they have gotten to see him less than 10 times total. I can play your game, AND pay for damages. Even if I had to eat ramen for 6 months to pay for it. I grew up in a house where my dad would pester us to the point of crying, then get mad that we were crying because "I'm just messing with you!!" Very NTA. Gotta draw the line somewhere, and these people are just awful. They hid his inhaler???? He was my hero. NTA. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Yep, that guy sure loves OP for putting up with her AH family. They arent messing up, they know exactly what theyre doing. Asthma is no joke. Nice people don't let their partners be abused by their family. Imagine if you guys decided to have kids and they acted this way around them too? Like that post we saw of the girls brother pretending to throw her baby down the stairs. They really need to understand that their action could have had serious consequence (luckily it didn't). So according to your family, I (a woman) am a man cause I can fix tires, cause obviously that's a manly man thing and not just a question of interests and acquired skills? Taking someone's enhaler can kill them. You can certainly take them on trips and include them in the family activities and all that, but always follow the number one rule of life, Don't be a dick. They are criminals acts and dangerous abuse. Middle of the night call to wake them up hysterical, "He still isn't back, he isn't answering his phonehave you heard from himwhen do I call the police and report him missing?". And it's not about me. Hey, OP - imagine your wedding reception. This mans gonna die. I think those types of people also sometimes have some deep down feelings of envy, too, over getting degrees, but mostly they just hate that colleges help a lot of people to develop critical thinking skills and helps teens to grow up and break out of the small-town or suburb way of existing because they get exposed to lots of different people of different races and views and religions for the first time, and many find out the things thier parents said about those "others" are not true at all. Are they going to hide to kid to see if he is a real father? I wouldn't want them anywhere near me or my SO. I hadnt thought about it in those terms, but that is exactly what they were doing. Your male relatives are a perfect example of toxic masculinity. They put his life at risk, am I getting this right? Rejecting feminine things like healthy social connections literally shortens their lives. A semester later and he said I had to pay for the full amount because I wasn't getting straight A's, which was true because I was exhausted. Pranks are supposed to be fun for both side and I don't think it was the case here nor before. if you have any evidence they slashed his tires, report it to the police. Also don't call him Timmy. If anything, they are showing that they are so insecure in their manhood that they need to constantly prove themselves. Stealing someone's effing inhaler out in the wilderness is trying to kill that person. OP, I'm sorry you grew up in such a toxic-masculine environment. Let's see how they, in this hypothetical scenario, like the PRANK of NOT BEING ABLE TO BREATHE PROPERLY. This enraged him, we once again had a blowout argument and he called me his greatest disappointment. I said she could come and so could my brothers but I'm standing firm that my stepdad has to stay away. Theyre all examples of toxic masculinity. Not everyone here is a native English speaker, so it's a bit unfair to expect everyone to be able to infer tone from a block of text, Yea I got it but tbf it sounds like the OPs family think this was unironically so on posts like these I do think it's more needed than not. He said that he didn't reply but later I got a call from my mom yelling at me calling me hurtful stuff saying I was acting like an ungrateful b by excluding her husband from the wedding after everything he's done for me, I told her that my brothers threatened not to come which pushed me to make this difficult dicision because if it was for me I'd have everyone there. They maybe expected him to go buy tires and change them by himself instead of getting help or the car taken to a place that fixes these problems? Your family is a bunch of assholes. INFO: how does your fianc feel? Edited to say I am a woman who has asthma as well. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. ETA: The contact would have ceased after the slashed tires for me. if something is destroyed or someone gets hurt (regardless of intention) then it is not a prank. I actually disagree with everyone who says you're not the asshole because you very clearly are. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. No, they had to literally endanger his life and/or health before you took this seriously. If they asked where he was, he was with his own family, but I was going to see them later. Honestly.. ESH except for your fianc because you let them abuse him for so long. Your husband shouldn't have to deal with them ever again and you don't want that toxic masculinity around your future kids. I have endometriosis. If you want to save your relationship you need to keep Tim away from your family, I'd go no contact myself. This is seriously so fucked up. They seem to have missed the point in their fun that their attempts to test your partner will also have shown him what kind of people they are! Her future husband should have joined in and told OPs family hes no longer participating in their ridiculous tests. And also tell them that this little habit stops here. Right? All I can picture is a future child being pranked like this. Click Here For Our Rules and Click Here For Our FAQ. Nobody can be that stupid. If my husband do this to me one day, aka letting people bully me, he would find himself very lonely because I'll be gone. At my graduation, she and my stepdad bought me a Honda Accord. Literally willing to risk everything to be with you. You should do Timmy a favor and choose between him and your toxic family. And they are still insisting YOU are wrong for disinviting them. Also if she had to beg and beg for you to go with her she may have assumed you didn't want to come and she was relieving you of a burden when she cancelled. Oh then hell no! It's 100% just asshole bullying. Who are they to judge masculinity? They will do something worse to pay you back on your wedding day. And wanted to see if he was "man" enough to go through it without his inhaler, this is so toxic. NTA, and just go NC with the whole lot - even your mom, because she clearly supports this shit. He's college educated. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: i am thinking about uninviting my sister from my mothers birthday dinner because she abruptly left me to go to the concert with someone else. I read her family slashed his tires and I was thinking this man is a saint for continuing to try with this family. Their own insecurities are on full display. not let this ruin my relationship with my family. It isn't easy to do; it isn't easy to learn when to do it. NTA. YTA- for making your husband put up with their antics for so long. Contest mode is 1.5 hours long on this post. Do not invite these toxic men. You have some choices to make, and your male relations are 100% on the hook for that. Theyll make your partners life a misery and at some point youd be forced to choose so you might as well choose your husband-to-be upfront. Knowledge and wisdom are threatening to people with small minds. I know, right? NTA, pranks are all too often used as an excuse to be AH's, let this be a lesson to them that you wont tolerate their BS. Lets cut the brake lines to see if hes a real man who can use the emergency brake! The question shouldnt be whether or not theyre invited to your wedding. this is wildly inappropriate at best, and really not funny. Poor Tim. They are treating him like garbage. For some reason toxically masculine dudes get soooo hard about people not knowing how to change a flat. My friends and I, all Afab and babyfaced enough to look like we were 18-25 once got asked what was holding up the car in a concerned tone while we were trying to change a tire. They specifically use the fact he went college as a way to look down on him, and most people who do that are the same ones who think colleges are brainwashing places that take in nice, innocent, religious, straight conservative teenagers that perfectly mimic thier parent's views and opinions, all to brainwash them into being gay atheist liberals who might even have black or gay friends or worse, gasp even transgender friends. Thats not pranking. Thats lets see how much abuse we get away with with the new guy so we can keep having fun being worthless bullies.. He might not be at that point yet, but he is getting VERY close. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: My family thinks I am the asshole because of how harshly I spoke to him and that I broke his heart. This is abuse. Yeah. Also- are they actually sorry for what they did? Whats next, cutting his cars breaks? Perfect. I agree. OP wonder this..what happens if and when you have a child specially if it's a boy. Who is kind and helps others? What if you had a son? NTA. No fun indeed. ETA: please tell me they paid for the tyres. Put it on what respect can Tim, and YOU, possibly have for them after this? Toxic masculinity all over this story. Thats it. You have every right to limit contact now that they have crossed that line. The fact he still wants to continue in this relationship says a lot about his feelings for you. Good lord, NTA!!! NTA-a set of tires can cost $1000 to replace. If I were Tim I'd be questioning the marriage with a hostile family like that. Cut those toxic people out and go be happy with the man who loves you. That was about two years ago, fast forward to now. It eventually got sorted but seriously, what was the point? This is 200% bullying bordering on harrassment and they need to be punished accordingly. I dont know where you are in the world OP, but where I live slashing someones tyres would be a criminal offence. Timmy will never feel comfortable and will always be on guard for the next shit show. I would keep my future kids the fuck away from those toxic assholes. Slashing tires is dangerous and expensive.. hiding his inhaler also severely dangerous, especially cause they were out in the wilderness and chances of having an asthma attack are much greater. Costing someone financially and putting said persons health at risk are not pranks NTA. I f25 along with my two brothers Dean & Kevin (both 30s) went through rough time during our parents divorce, mom got married to my stepdad and we lived with him for years. pranks have no lasting impact, aside from a shared laugh in the future. They were testing your boundaries, seeing what they could get away with doing and when there were no consequences, they escalated until it culminated in a life threatening event. My dad's siblings and their wives (and children) are kind of horrible. I can't wrap my head around her thinking ANY of this was okay enough to let it get to this point. It took until they actually endangered his life for her to tell her idiot relatives to stop torturing the man she allegedly loves? When you cut off toxic people, it makes room for better people in your life. Imagine if he had - oh, is it funny to face a murder charge for hiding an inhaler? I was livid and called him out, but argued with my mother about it and about how she allowed this to happen. This doesnt sound like pranking but more like bullying. We had multiple meetings and conversations to mend our relationship where he'd shed crocodile tears but we'd always end up having a blowout argument where he would say awful things and we wouldn't speak for months. This wasn't them 'having fun'. I'd have noped out much sooner no matter how much I liked a guy. Clearly they were being awful to the fiance prior to the inhaler 'prank'. Managing your family is your job, and you were somehow ok with the constant insults, belittling questions, slashing of tires, etc. Pff too easy. Yup - Manslaughter for you, buddy. This has to be fake. If they are going to test your bf like that what kind of tortures do they have in store for future kids. These men are absolute Neanderthals! Only yours should matter. Who supports you and your dreams? "I also don't want my sister moaning about being surrounded by kids, as they probably make up about 1/3 of the guest list. I'm so sorry your family did this. Those assholes would show up in their hunting gear and make everyone miserable. I completely agree. a prank would be like. filling his car with balloons or something. AmItheAsshole Original. The only difference is, I was about 13 when I was forced to realize my father was a terrible, manipulative man. Your family sounds absolutely horrid, and you're wise not to expose yourself to their bullying. Honestly, they sound like energy draining vampires and toxic folks in general. Cut ties with everyone, save your poor poor fiance more pain then the abuse he already went trough for you, and apologize to him in behalf of your family. Exactly. NTA. They waited until he went on a trip with them to steal his inhaler. They never thought lesser of me for being a woman, or my best friend for being gay. They are immature, idiot morons How was that not it for you? Look, it's just like those 'allergy' people. This was DANGEROUS. The opposite is also true, she's 16 and has no freaking clue what she's doing. What's worse is, I can see people like this waiting for future opportunities for "man tests" at family events going forward. NTA- my husband has asthma and they could have killed him. This is toxic masculinity at it's finest. and our The men of your family are toxic. But in this case, the victim is the one feeling bad for the familial rift - which is really normal since hes the normal one of the group. And now that you have stood up to them, they've gone crying to Mom. You're right to make a stance. So funny. Oh wait. You dont let bygones be bygones when someone knowingly puts another persons life at risk. Especially with your dad, who will apologize but will lose respect for him. I hope her step dad has the good sense to withdraw his financial support from the wedding. Family or not I'd be pressing charges. These people would be as dead to me as Tim could have been. im sure OP has tried to shut it down before. NTA. An inhaler is used for a life saving breathing issue. It's obvious they have preconceived ideas on what a real man is (going so far to risk your fiance health). I had an cousin die from cancer because he waited for the tumor that was visible to get so large and spread before getting to the doctor. What your sister did was shitty, she let you down and made you waste 90. NTA. He sounds like an absolute caveman needing to prove physical prowess to compensate for knowing your partner is clearly intellectually superior. Small people feel the need to put other people down. They have no respect for either of you or your relationship. NTA this is toxic masculinity and honestly who tf hides an inhaler from an asthmatic?! Edit: fixed a typo saying tall instead of talk. This is dangerous and just irresponsible. If not, they really should be smarter than that. Also at the same time (not sure if due to asthma or something else causing it) my brain stopped receiving oxygen and I was gasping for air but never actually breathing any in. You are NTA for sure. Yeah It took me way too long to realise that the crime there is very simple. Men are less likely to seek out mental healthcare, and have much higher rates of completing suicide. probably just some well deserved peace and quiet. Assholes are assholes who deserves to get cut out of your life. Being in that environment sounds toxic as hell. NTA and you made the right decision sticking up for your fianc as he is obviously madly in love with you to put up with your families bullshit. The reality is that your fianc and how he feels is more important to you and none of the relatives care about either of the two of you. Slashing someones tires is NOT a prank! ^ This exactly. Family should be loving, welcoming, and supportive first, and then if they have concerns about the way they see him treating you they have a talk with you about it. NTA they took the pranks way too far. Pranks are harmless fun. Keep the fiance and his family and go NC with yours because YIKES. NTA. This!! Youre NTA, but if you dont take this stand, Tim will leave you. Little Timmy could have pranked them back by dying without his inhaler if he hasn't discovered its loss in time. They are bullies. Depending on how bad the asthma is it could be way beyond cruel. He's an American actually fortunate enough to have access to healthcare and is bragging that he doesn't get it, despite obviously needing it? They divorced five months after getting married when she found him cheating. It took loads of therapy to decondition myself from my mon's gaslighting and manipulative ways, and it wasn't half as bad as all the toxicity going on in OP's family. This needing to prove he is a "man" is so toxic. Its not a feeling I would wish on anyone! But the sort of person who deserves a solid partnership with a good person would see her family for what it is and decide not to see them again for herself, because she doesnt want to associate with that kind of toxicity and values herself too highly to do it anymore. Men are also entitled to show emotions and have a caring side. They could have killed him. Agreed. Why isnt this the top comment? Cut these toxic shits out of your life before they kill someone. Fucking abuse. This is a really bad troll. "Let bygones be bygones" because you'll essentially be telling your fiance that your asshat family members fucked up view of entertainment is more important than him. Life saving medication! Ask them how they would like mug shots and restraining orders and if THOSE, decorating your guest sign in table, would increase their respect for you as a couple. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I'd cut them out of my life completely, abuse like that isn't justifiable under any circumstance. Do you live in some backwoods place? Tow it to a tire shop. I mean the main reason the men in my family hate doctors is because they dont listen. And to also add that theyre belittling his mental health too. NTA. Wtf. Yeah, like, I think there's two judgements to be made here. Oh he's dead! Im a woman, but it my now-husbands family had treated me even 10% this badly, literally committed crimes against me they could be charged with criminally, I would not have continued dating him, much less married into his family. He's so nice he'd give you the inhaler from someone else's bag, you know, instead of the shirt off his own back. If you dont do something, youre going to lose him. slashing tires is not a prank, it's a crime, hiding someone's medical device/medication (especially if prescribed) is also a crime, not a prank, Pranks mean no one gets hurt, this isnt pranking this is straight up bullying. If you have a son, do you want your family to test him this way? Ask your dad if he's run to mummy to tattle? Bringing you the freshest and best posts from r/AmItheAsshole Timestamps:0:00 - AITA for causing my sister to no longer have her college paid for?2:14 - AITA. Recently, I bought a new car which I use everyday and let my mom and stepdad take it whenever they need. They could be arrested! OP, how have you not filed a police report?? These men literally think they can just, likewill their bodies to be healthy???? What a nightmare. Hey also OP. This is childish. Toxic man stuff. OP, this already is a wedge. You are NTA for sticking up for your fiance, but you will be if you let them into your wedding and don't go low/no contact. Sheesh.. As a registered nurse, all I can say is that is despicable and they could have potentially put his life in danger. Yeah youre not the asshole for that but you are the asshole. Create a new healthy family. I can see it nowwife make my grandson a pb and j sandwich (cause we know he wouldn't make it himself) cause he needs to just get over this or its for attention when his airway closes..NTA. Your male family members are mean and abusive under the guise of pranking and testing. NTA go no contact over those AH. Best of luck!! They're the ones that have broken the trust. Seriously. Read this before contacting the mod team. They are cruel people who have been bullying your fianc, these things are not pranks. A place where it's obvious OP is the asshole. You are strong. Negligent homicide is a whole different ballgame. NTA by far. You have already been uninvited, just let bygones be bygones. i think you should do more than just uninvite them to the wedding honestly. Your wedding is about your fianc and you, it doesnt matter if your male relatives miss out if they are causing harm to the person the event is suppose to be celebrating. NTA OP. The recipient should be laughing just as hard as the prankster and any observers. What if he had an asthma attack and couldn't breathe because he couldn't find his inhaler? Some people live paycheck to paycheck and this could break them. I hadnt seen a doctor in a decade due to lack of health care and this guy straight up told me he hasnt either even after a heart attack. Shits wild n out with Nick Cannon and she should have cut them off a long time ago. A native English speaker would be like yeah, sure whatever, hearing that. Also when I had no health insurance I almost was literally about to die of the paramedics where a few minutes late then they where. Thats just too much and a huge wtf. He has had some health complications straight after and I feel like they blame me for this as well. They're being mean and trying to downplay it. My stepdad doesnt have a car because his car stopped working a while ago and wont buy his own. They aren't pranking him, they are bullying him. Then NC. NTA ! However, she doesn't like her either. Vandalisim at the very least? I was hospitalized and they were draining fluid from around my lungs (?). Also I hope this doesn't take the shine off your wedding OP, and remember that day is about making two people happy, nobody else. 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